Love this post! You totally nailed my experience at my trans-ID'ed daughter's school who just last week ran a pronoun workshop for those retrograde parents struggling to overcome wrong think and get with the new lingo: "But it wasn't a small thing: it was a demand for overt dishonesty whose only purpose was to prime me for the next concession. If this demand came only from my child, it would have been more easily resolved; but it often came from other "supportive" adults, and sometimes in the presence of my child. The environment began to feel like a psy-ops experiment measuring the point at which parents will relinquish their tether to material reality, and with it, the child. I adopted a tortured syntax that avoids pronouns altogether, which is a form of tiptoeing around the truth; but I don’t do that anymore."
For the last forty years my staunchest supporter around my gender has been my ex lover who actually broke off our relationship because of the gender issue would not give her the family she wanted. During the many periods of despair and depression I've encountered over these many years, she has always been there and willing to stand up to the world who attacked me because of my being transgender. So it was that when, after 45 years I realized the stupidity and fallacy of the medicalization of gender confusion, she had a difficult time accepting my return to being a man. She still is very supportive of the younger transgenders she meets and works with, without being judgmental of them. So there are good, decent people who will support other's exploration of themselves without attacking and demonizing those that have different opinions about the gender question.
Oct 11, 2023·edited Oct 11, 2023Liked by Jenny Poyer Ackerman
Great article and I love your well-documented list of people who have sacrificed so much in order to speak out. Thank you for your willingness to come out from behind the cloak of anonymity. When my adult kids (yes, both are affected by this) are slightly older and more mentally healthy I hope to do the same. Like you, I am beyond feeling sad and am ENRAGED by this issue. My friends and colleagues are unwilling to talk about it because it doesn't affect their daily lives. We're talking about how we agree on the very nature of reality - so it affects everyone's lives!!!! Meanwhile I can't get through a single day without constant reminders of this issue - on TV, on LinkedIn, in the corridors and restrooms at work -- everywhere.
"I’m not sure I have courage now, but I have disgust. I have outrage. Because others have shown courage, it’s now clear that this scandal will be exposed, and the activists’ obscene, rapacious greed for young victims laid bare." Well done. Very well done!
Boom. Thanks, Jenny. I am in that delicate position where I feel at risk of losing connection with my college freshman daughter if I am not anonymous at this very moment, but you give me courage. And hope. Thanks again.
Thank you for these fantastic posts. I am a teacher in Canada, or more precisely, was a teacher. I’m 54 yrs old and was working part time in an elementary school but decided to quit because I could not bear to take part in the secret social transition of children, a common occurrence in this particular school. And what made it even worse for me was my inability to speak out. I tried a few times to carefully raise my concerns but realized quickly that I just wasn’t brave enough to say what I think, what I know to be true. I have spent every day since I quit trying to figure what I can do to fight this insanity, but I always end up back at feeling not courageous enough. Certainly my circle of friends does not want to hear about anything gender related and it has strained many relationships. But one day I will speak more publicly , I won’t be able to live with myself if I don’t .
I really appreciate that note, Julie, and your kind words. I think refusing to participate in the madness, at the price of your job, took a lot of courage, and integrity. I share your reticence about speaking out in a physical public setting, and I don't even know if it can achieve much, unless a video of it manages to go viral. I do think there's a way to break through, gently, with friends, one question at a time. It can be exhausting, though. I'm sorry you've had to give up so much. It's not right.
Bailey (in)famously was dragged through the mud by a group of academics and media-connected activists led by Lynn Conway, Deirdre McCloskey, Joan Roughgarden, Andrea James, and Julia Serano. Goes without saying, all of the are AGP.
Yes, that was some 20 years ago, I think. They even used photos of his kids to infer incest -- all for the crime of doing research which some of them eagerly participated in because he was a true ally. There are no lows too low for these men, and I’ve been wondering if their mental condition is exacerbated by the estrogen. I also wonder about Audrey Hale and whether she would have shot up that school without being on T. This needs to be studied.
Takes a "Real Woman ™" to handle high levels of estrogen ...😉🙂
Seem to remember some bits about Bailey vs. Andrea James and Company, though don't recollect seeing Roughgarden as part of that mob. Seems "she" is a more or less credible biologist who has defended the standard biological definitions for the sexes which certainly don't promote any transgender ideology. Although I can say I've more than skimmed his magnum opus, but see this bit in particular:
JR: "To a biologist, 'male' means making small gametes, and 'female' means making large gametes. Period! By definition, the smaller of the two gametes is called a sperm, and the larger an egg."
Not much if any support there for any transwoman claiming to be a female. In fact, one might argue it justifies saying that transwomen who cut their nuts off are neither male nor female, that they're sexless eunuchs. Seems like a helluva price to pay to "dish with the girls".
Love this post! You totally nailed my experience at my trans-ID'ed daughter's school who just last week ran a pronoun workshop for those retrograde parents struggling to overcome wrong think and get with the new lingo: "But it wasn't a small thing: it was a demand for overt dishonesty whose only purpose was to prime me for the next concession. If this demand came only from my child, it would have been more easily resolved; but it often came from other "supportive" adults, and sometimes in the presence of my child. The environment began to feel like a psy-ops experiment measuring the point at which parents will relinquish their tether to material reality, and with it, the child. I adopted a tortured syntax that avoids pronouns altogether, which is a form of tiptoeing around the truth; but I don’t do that anymore."
For the last forty years my staunchest supporter around my gender has been my ex lover who actually broke off our relationship because of the gender issue would not give her the family she wanted. During the many periods of despair and depression I've encountered over these many years, she has always been there and willing to stand up to the world who attacked me because of my being transgender. So it was that when, after 45 years I realized the stupidity and fallacy of the medicalization of gender confusion, she had a difficult time accepting my return to being a man. She still is very supportive of the younger transgenders she meets and works with, without being judgmental of them. So there are good, decent people who will support other's exploration of themselves without attacking and demonizing those that have different opinions about the gender question.
Great article and I love your well-documented list of people who have sacrificed so much in order to speak out. Thank you for your willingness to come out from behind the cloak of anonymity. When my adult kids (yes, both are affected by this) are slightly older and more mentally healthy I hope to do the same. Like you, I am beyond feeling sad and am ENRAGED by this issue. My friends and colleagues are unwilling to talk about it because it doesn't affect their daily lives. We're talking about how we agree on the very nature of reality - so it affects everyone's lives!!!! Meanwhile I can't get through a single day without constant reminders of this issue - on TV, on LinkedIn, in the corridors and restrooms at work -- everywhere.
Thank you for the kind words — and I feel you; there’s no let up!
"I’m not sure I have courage now, but I have disgust. I have outrage. Because others have shown courage, it’s now clear that this scandal will be exposed, and the activists’ obscene, rapacious greed for young victims laid bare." Well done. Very well done!
Boom. Thanks, Jenny. I am in that delicate position where I feel at risk of losing connection with my college freshman daughter if I am not anonymous at this very moment, but you give me courage. And hope. Thanks again.
Thank you for these fantastic posts. I am a teacher in Canada, or more precisely, was a teacher. I’m 54 yrs old and was working part time in an elementary school but decided to quit because I could not bear to take part in the secret social transition of children, a common occurrence in this particular school. And what made it even worse for me was my inability to speak out. I tried a few times to carefully raise my concerns but realized quickly that I just wasn’t brave enough to say what I think, what I know to be true. I have spent every day since I quit trying to figure what I can do to fight this insanity, but I always end up back at feeling not courageous enough. Certainly my circle of friends does not want to hear about anything gender related and it has strained many relationships. But one day I will speak more publicly , I won’t be able to live with myself if I don’t .
I really appreciate that note, Julie, and your kind words. I think refusing to participate in the madness, at the price of your job, took a lot of courage, and integrity. I share your reticence about speaking out in a physical public setting, and I don't even know if it can achieve much, unless a video of it manages to go viral. I do think there's a way to break through, gently, with friends, one question at a time. It can be exhausting, though. I'm sorry you've had to give up so much. It's not right.
Bailey (in)famously was dragged through the mud by a group of academics and media-connected activists led by Lynn Conway, Deirdre McCloskey, Joan Roughgarden, Andrea James, and Julia Serano. Goes without saying, all of the are AGP.
Yes, that was some 20 years ago, I think. They even used photos of his kids to infer incest -- all for the crime of doing research which some of them eagerly participated in because he was a true ally. There are no lows too low for these men, and I’ve been wondering if their mental condition is exacerbated by the estrogen. I also wonder about Audrey Hale and whether she would have shot up that school without being on T. This needs to be studied.
"exacerbated by the estrogen"
Takes a "Real Woman ™" to handle high levels of estrogen ...😉🙂
Seem to remember some bits about Bailey vs. Andrea James and Company, though don't recollect seeing Roughgarden as part of that mob. Seems "she" is a more or less credible biologist who has defended the standard biological definitions for the sexes which certainly don't promote any transgender ideology. Although I can say I've more than skimmed his magnum opus, but see this bit in particular:
JR: "To a biologist, 'male' means making small gametes, and 'female' means making large gametes. Period! By definition, the smaller of the two gametes is called a sperm, and the larger an egg."
https://teoriaevolutiva.files.wordpress.com/2013/10/joan_roughgarden_evolutions_rainbow_diversitybookos-org1.pdf
Not much if any support there for any transwoman claiming to be a female. In fact, one might argue it justifies saying that transwomen who cut their nuts off are neither male nor female, that they're sexless eunuchs. Seems like a helluva price to pay to "dish with the girls".